Transferring to a new home can be quite stressful for all the family members, most especially among children. When it comes to moving in to a new place kids tend to feel scared, anxious and unsettled with the new environment. That is why it is very important to plan a transition approach to help settle things down.
Here are some of them:
Before the day of moving in to a new place, it is important to inform the children on what to expect and what will most probably happen. It is also ideal to explain to them why the family needs to move, what kind of place is your new home, what can happen during the moving day and let them help you with small tasks to make them feel part of the whole process. If it’s possible, you can even take them to the new house before moving in to give them some idea on what their new surroundings look like.
Always tell them the positive effects of moving like telling them the good things to see in the new place, the beautiful features of the new home and many others. For those who have older children, allow them to set up their new bedroom with you. Let them choose a new bedroom furniture or bedroom theme.
For younger children, one easy way to tell them about moving in is to play with them, play moving house with their favourite toy doll or teddy bear. You can also buy or borrow books from the library and tell them some stories about moving into a new place. One very important thing that parents need to also consider is to allow your kids to say goodbye to their friends and close family relatives before moving into the new place.
The main thing here is to plan all the moves smoothly as possible so kids won’t be troubled and suffer from anxiety and stress.
Moving Out – the Day
Children will need various things on the day of moving out, it also depends on what age group your children belong to. For babies, toddlers and younger children you will need someone to look after them. You can ask a close friend or family to take charge of them. If that’s not possible, make sure you have prepared all the necessary things for your children like feeding bottles, diapers, extra clothes, blankets, food or water. Also, don’t forget to give them their favourite books and toys. Find a safe place for your child to play, sit, or sleep while the moving out process is taking place.
Parents must understand that older children might get anxious, get excited or even get nervous. Keep them occupied and let them be part of the whole process by giving them small tasks like unpacking their personal belongings. You can even turn the whole moving process into an adventure or game. Discuss with your children what is going on and take time explaining the whole thing to them with plenty of drinks and snack. Through this, you will be able to determine how they feel about the moving experience.
Make the Whole Process Easy for the Kids
Most of the time toddlers and babies will not be too concerned about their new environment. Just continue keeping their routine if possible and make sure that your new place is child-friendly. Make it a top priority so you are assured that your kids will be safe from any harm.
When it comes to younger children, a few of them may show signs of uneasiness on the new place. They’ll often feel uncomfortable with the new routine and may need some extra attention. There are some pre-schoolers who even wet their bed while sleeping, others will throw tantrums or have some trouble sleeping at night.
Older children and pre-schoolers might have some issues while sleeping in a new room or home. Try to make the experience very comforting as much as possible. Let the older children be involved in unpacking their things and let them arrange their room with familiar stuff.
Just allow them to express what they feel and always reassure them. And in case these feelings carry on for a very long time, seek some professional help.